To have a DREAM marriage, you’ve got to have some fun…that’s the “M” in “DREAM” – Mutual Activities

But instead of enjoying activities together, sometimes you are stuck in a rut.  Routine. Monotony.  Boredom.

What do you do when that happens?  My friend author and family counselor Dr. David Frisbie suggests:

You always benefit from a change of pace.  You benefit from being in a place where you can’t work and there aren’t ten projects calling your name that you should be doing right now because they are more important than idle recreation.  The change of pace aspect is huge.  Getting some distance away from your normal life even if it’s half hour away in the mountains or 20 minutes to the beach is extremely helpful.

While you have the kids at home, if you have relatives or friends who can take them for a weekend or Friday overnight once in a while, you are certainly not rejecting your children to give them to someone’s loving care for the weekend.  If you can afford it, get a motel.  There’s nothing unseductive about the home.  It’s just, especially if you work at home, everything you need to do and ought to do is right in front of you.

Isn’t that true?  I have found when James and I can get away for 24 hours all by ourselves, it refreshes us and allows us to push through a pretty hectic family schedule for quite some time afterwards.

You have to make time to escape completely (the motto of Princess Cruises).  I’ve never been on a cruise (can’t get James to go on one yet) but that idea of escaping completely is a good one for all of us.  Even if it’s just a one hour escape to sit in a park or walk along a nature path.

What are you going to do to escape completely with your spouse once a year?  This month?


Arlene Pellicane

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