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FB Live Videos

Each week, I’ll be doing a Facebook Live chat and prayer about a hot parenting or marriage topic. The goal is to help you have a happier home, and to encourage you as a parent and/or spouse. Hope you can join live on Facebook and the videos will be archived here.

3 Social Skill Drills for Your Kids

How to get your kids to listen to you

How to get your kids to listen to you

Here's my weekly Happy Home chat that I usually do on my author page, but oops! I posted it here instead!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane on Tuesday, August 25, 2020

Ask this risky question

I Dare You to Ask this Question…

What is the dominant question running through your mind throughout the day? I'll talk about the power of asking questions and dare you to ask a family member: What is it like to be on the other side of me? (thanks to Pastor Mike from my church Bonita Valley Community Church for sharing this in the message this weekend)

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 18, 2020

Fear Less

How to Fear Less

Fear runs rampant in these uncertain days. How can you say, "Don't be afraid" to your kids and really mean it? I'll share some thoughts from my devotional today about keeping fear away. As my daughter wrote when she was five, "I am not ufred uv you!"

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 11, 2020

Welcome to High School (Virtual, That Is) Tips

Welcome to (Virtual) High School

High school has started at our house…downstairs! Online only! Here are a few things we have learned about creating a conducive environment and the ups and downs of virtual learning as you start.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 4, 2020

Why I waited to get Lucy’s ears pierced

Why I waited to get Lucy's ears pierced

Why it's good to delay perks for kids (gives them something to look forward to) but why responsibility can be taught early. Mentioned the books Parents Rising and The Power of Modesty for Tweens by my friend Dannah Gresh True Girl

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, July 28, 2020

Addictive vs. Non-Addictive Tech

Addictive vs Non-Addictive Screen Time

How can you tell if your kids' screen time is addictive or non-addictive? Digital veggies vs digital candy…

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, July 21, 2020

Hearing the voice of God (for you and your kids)

Helping Our Kids Hear God's Voice

"Mom, how do I hear the voice of God?" During this pandemic, we can either tune in more to TV, news, social media etc. OR we can lean into God to hear Him better. Here are some ideas to help you and your kids hear God's voice more clearly this summer. Hint: VBS and Dannah Gresh's Bible study in Hababbuk are two ways I mention 🙂

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, July 7, 2020

Raising Boys to be Men (Masculinity is NOT toxic)

Raising Boys to be Men

Masculinity is NOT toxic! When our boys learn how to be providers, defenders, and instructors, everyone benefits! I'm on fire about this after listening to Liet. Gen. Jerry Boykin talk on Father's Day about these principles from his book, Man to Man: Rediscovering Masculinity in a Challenging World. This message is totally worth listening to: https://vimeo.com/431156253

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, June 23, 2020

Treat Your Spouse Better Because…

Treat Your Spouse Better Because…

Research shows that when we hold the hand of one we love, it lessens pain and anxiety. Let me explain…and guess what? Dr. Gary Chapman has a new book to help us through this pandemic, "5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage." We talk about it this week on the Happy Home Podcast! https://arlenepellicane.com/2020/06/podcast-gary-chapman-stuck-at-home-advice-for-couples/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Summertime Screen Time Help

Summertime Screen Time Help!

Need some summertime screen time help??? Summer time is a time to celebrate, relax, recharge…but are your kids basically indoors watching TV and playing video games all day? Let's talk about it – with a few ideas to stop the digital deluge (plus I'll let you know how I surprised James with my Wall Street Journal article last week!)

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, June 9, 2020

How to stop the digital deluge

How to Stop the Digital Deluge

Has your home been flooded by media and technology? How you can stop the fire hydrant of information overwhelming your kids? Also referred to the Happy Home Podcast about video games and kids with Melanie Hempe…check it out on my previous episodes here: https://www.accessmore.com/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Digital vegetables or digital candy?

Digital Vegetables or Digital Candy?

All screen time isn't created equal. How can you tell the difference? Let's define digital vegetables and digital candy. And – you can now find my Happy Home Podcast (definitely veggies!) at https://www.accessmore.com/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Do this and stay sane during coronavirus

Do this and staying at home will be easier

Do this and staying home during COVID 19 will be much easier…

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 12, 2020

Feel like you are falling apart?

Feel like you're falling apart?

Feel like you're falling apart? These are hard times with the coronavirus. Our normal healthy ways of hugging one another and seeing other people have been upended. Here are three ideas to keep the joy factor going: (1) put something on the schedule each day (2) start and end the day with praise and thanksgiving and (3) get a pen pal!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 5, 2020

Stuck at home? COVID 19 advice for moms

Coronavirus advice for moms

Stuck at home? Coronavirus advice for moms

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Monday, March 16, 2020

Community Service for Kids

Community Service for Kids

How do you encourage your kids to volunteer for things? Community service isn't just a requirement to look good on a college application. It's good for life! Love what Abraham Lincoln said, "To ease another's heartache is to forget one's own." I quote that in my 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom book 🙂

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, March 10, 2020

Are you avoiding these 3 money mistakes?

Are you avoiding these 3 money mistakes?

Are you making any of these 3 common money mistakes? Some things I realized while reading Chris Hogan's book "Retire Inspired"@Chris Hogan

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, February 18, 2020

Separation anxiety with your phone?

Separation Anxiety with Your Phone?

Might you or your child need a "phoney pack"? If you or your child have separation anxiety when away from your phones, this talk is for you!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, January 28, 2020

Two Easy Ways to Get Fit with Hubby

2 Easy Ways to Get Fit with Hubby

Need some help getting fit WITH hubby? Let me give you 2 easy ways to get started

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Translating the Five Love Languages

Getting your kids in a grateful mood

Getting Your Kids in a Grateful Mood

Are your kids great at saying thank you and expressing appreciation? Here are some tips that you can use to pump up the gratitude in your home from Bible verses to memorizes to games you can play on Thanksgiving.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Your Husband’s Dream Marriage

Keep DREAMING as a couple

The story of 4 wives…and what that has to teach us about living a DREAM marriage ourselves! The books I mentioned: 31 Days to a Happy Husband, Lovestruck by Sharon Jaynes, and Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus. Check out my friend Dr. Jennifer Degler for great tips for your lovelife https://www.facebook.com/drjenniferdegler/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, November 5, 2019

What Are Selfies Doing to Our Kids

What are selfies doing to our kids? Learn how to help you daughter manage her tech much better in my free series, Screen Time: http://courses.truthbecomesher.com/screen-time

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 8, 2019

What You Ought to Know About Google

What do you need to realize about Google – for yourself and for your kids? Get Arlene's free video course about Screen Time at http://courses.truthbecomesher.com/screen-time

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 1, 2019

Buzz Buzz Who’s Calling in Class?

Buzz buzz go the cell phones in class…who's calling?

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 17, 2019

The Best Group I Have Ever Joined as a Parent

The best group I ever joined as a parent…

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 10, 2019

3 Essentials for Your Child’s Health

3 Essential Things for your child's health…this will help them immensely this school year.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Journaling for Busy Moms

Journaling for busy moms

Journaling for busy moms – ever started a journal just to leave it for days, months, without writing a thing? I certainly have. Here's a journaling style I really like…we'll talk about the value of journaling and how to fit it in a busy lifestyle.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 27, 2019

The Magic of Getting Away with Your Spouse

The magic of getting away with your spouse…do you have a date night or overnight getaway planned this month or next month? Time to put it on the calendar. For date night ideas, check out my books 31 Days to a Happy Husband or 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 20, 2019

5 Back to School Tips for a Smoother Year

Back to school tips to make your year smoother, happier, and healthier!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 13, 2019

What Does Success Look Like for Your Child?

What does success look like for your kids? Two principles to teach your children outlined here from what I recently heard at #MastermindSD #MastermindSummit2019 Brian Buffini My Lucy age 9 attended her first personal growth conference and here's what she thought…Resource mentioned: https://www.thebrianbuffinishow.com/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Because mentoring matters

Mentoring Matters (the 5:1 principle)

Mentors are role models your kids can talk to. Does your son or daugther have adults like this in life? Great resources include GEMS girls club https://gemsgc.org/ , Royal Rangers (what my son has done) https://royalrangers.com/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, July 30, 2019

Preparing Your Kids to Fly Solo

Does the thought of sending your child on a flight alone scare you? We'll talk about sending off our kids to fly…literally and figuratively. We are raising ADULTS not kids!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, July 9, 2019

How NOT to eat junk food all summer long

How Not to Eat Junk Food All Summer Long

Is summer a steady stream of cotton candy, chips, hot dogs, and soda? Stop the madness with these easy tips and tricks to help get better food served on the table.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, June 18, 2019

How to evaluate if the screen time is good or bad

How can you distinguish between good and bad screen time?

Here are some ways you can evalaute screen time. Use the ABCs found in Growing Up Social. How is the Attitude, Behavior, Character of your child after the screen time? Are you kids learning or loafing? Creating or consuming? Watching or doing? Watching alone or watching together?

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Monday, June 10, 2019

Pick a Summer Game Plan for Screen Time

Game plan for the summer screen time in your home! Here are some ideas to choose from to make your summer more sane with on-purpose screen time instead of screen time that takes over your entire summer. Create your own family media plan here on the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) website: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/media/Pages/default.aspx

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, June 4, 2019

3 Quick Questions for a Marriage Check-up

Marriage Quiz: Ask these 3 questions today

Ask these 3 questions today for a quick marriage checkup: 1. Are we laughing and having fun everyday? 2. Are we making love regularly? 3. Do I usually have an attitude of contempt or caring towards my spouse? For a resource, you can read "31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife" to become more purposeful in your marriage. A big shout out and thanks to my husband James who worked some video magic for our FB chat today and for the future!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 28, 2019

What’s wrong with stranger danger?

What's wrong with stranger danger?

Don't get in a car with someone you don't know. Don't chat or text someone you don't know. But DO talk to someone you don't know…like the barista at the coffeeshop, your server at a restaurant, a person standing in line next to you, etc. There's a surprising upside to being courteous and friendly to strangers…and you can teach it to your kids to so they will be less self absorbed.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, May 21, 2019

Feeling discouraged as a mom?

Screen time battles: Parents vs Grandparents

Screen Time Battles: Parents vs. Grandparents

What can you do when you disagree with something your parents or in-laws are doing…maybe they gave an extravagant gift (newest iPhone) or watch lots of TV. When grandparents and parents clash, keep these things in mind and hopefully it will help you have a better conversation together about your child.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, April 30, 2019

How to make the weekend more relaxing

How to make the weekend actually relaxing

Are you just as tired on Monday morning as you are on Friday afternoon? How can you make your weekend more refreshing and vacation like? I'll give you a few ideas today!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, April 16, 2019

When Your child is disappointed

When Your Child is Disappointed

Your kids will face disappointments: not making a team, a friend's betrayal, a broken foot or broken promise. How can you teach them to rebound with God's help? We recently had a disappointment and here's how it turned out…

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Chores and Your Child

Chores and Your Kids

Feel like a maid in your own home? It's hard to find good help these days! But guess what…your kids can pitch in with chores and here's a few things they can do…starting today!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, March 19, 2019

Pressing pause on ANGER

Press pause on ANGER

Pressing pause on ANGER…how can you help your children deal with anger in a constructive way?

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, March 12, 2019

Help! I’m worried

Help, I'm worried!

Help, I'm worried about my kids or husband. How can we worry less and trust God more? What do we do when our worries just get stronger and stronger? A few tips and prayers from my book "31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife"

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, March 5, 2019

Money and Marriage

Money and Marriage

How can you get on the same page FINANCIALLY with your spouse? Let's talk about some ideas to improve your wallet-to-wallet communication from my book 31 Days to a Happy Husband.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Mutual activities to share with your spouse

Mutual activities to share with your spouse

Keep dating your spouse! Here are several ideas of mutual activities you could enjoy with your spouse including hiking, walking, skiing, gardening, gun shows, craft shows, dancing, exercising, new restaurant, cooking class, golfing, tennis, sports events, concerts, massages, learning instruments, poetry, sailing, coffee houses, movies, kayaking, conferences, basketball, antique shopping…you can add your own to the list….keep connected with my book 31 Days to a Happy Husband! (PS the gray thing in the background is my daughters' fort!)

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Date Night Ideas

Date Night Ideas

Date night is an important part of having a happy marriage! Here are a few ideas that won't break the bank. Remember to have fun, laugh, kiss, be romantic on dates. They are not supposed to be boring or phone centered! See my book 31 Days to a Happy Husband for more ideas!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, February 12, 2019

One minute to improve your marriage

One minute to improve your marriage

One minute to improve your marriage! Yes, I will share a tip that will help you get closer in less than one minute a day. Based on my book 31 Days to a Happy Husband, and yes, I am doing it myself!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, February 5, 2019

How to tell your kids they are not getting that phone

How to Tell Your Child They are Not Getting that Phone for Christmas

Not sure how to tell your child that he or she won't be getting that new phone or iPad or video game for Christmas? Let's prepare for that moment of disappointment and get some Christmas cheer going!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Can your high schooler survive without a smartphone?

Can your high schooler survive without a smartphone?

Is it possible to be in high school without a phone? What about safety? What about being connected to your friends? I'll reference the movie "Screenagers" which I recommend.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Will your child eat all that (Halloween) candy?

Will your child eat all that (Halloween) candy???

What to do with the abundance of candy headed towards your house? Eat. It. All? I'll give you ideas of what to do with that extra candy and also help you have a healthier mindset going into the holiday season. #ParentsRising means serving nutrition at home: spiritually, emotionally and physically.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Cheap ideas for memorable birthday parties

Cheap ideas for memorable birthday parties

Do you need to spend a ton of money on your child's next birthday party? NO! Bringing back moderation doesn't make it less fun…I'll give you cheap ideas and awaken your birthday party throwing genius for your child's next party!

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 23, 2018

What is Internet addiction (and does my child have it???)

What is internet addiction (and does my child have it???)

Is your child constantly online? What is internet addiction and might your child have it? I talk about some questions and tests you can try to find out. Also you can google "internet addiction test" and find great questionnaires. I reference Dr. Andrew Doan's book "Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction." It is an eye opener and excellent.

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Modest is Marvelous

Modest is Marvelous: Girls Style That's Good

Tight pants? Short shorts? Bare midriffs? Are you wondering how your tween/teen girl can be fashionable and modest at the same time? Let's talk! Secret Keeper Girl can help! Also I recommend Dannah Gresh's book "Secret Keeper Girl: The Power of Modesty for Tweens" http://secretkeepergirl.com/events/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 9, 2018

How to be a courageous parent

How to Be a Courageous Parent

What scares you about parenting? The tantrums? Video games? Your kids feeling left out? Let's find our strength in God today! Learn how to become a more courageous parent. Learn more from my pastor's sermon series Fearless, Pastor Jeff Brawner at http://bonitavalley.com/portfolio/fear-less/

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Will your kids be able to talk…or just text?

Will your kids be able to talk…or just text?

Will your kids be able to talk…or just text???

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Dealing with loss and failure

How can you help your children deal with loss and failure?

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Wearing earbuds

Wearing Earbuds

Sorry, I don't want to talk…why earbuds can be a bad habit for kids (the video freezes twice due to technical glitch, but it comes back, sorry about that!)

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Fortnite and video games

How Can You Tell If Your Child is Playing Too Much Fortnite?

Kids addicted to Fortnite and other video games?

Posted by Arlene Pellicane, Speaker & Author on Tuesday, August 28, 2018

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