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Parenting: Take this Job and Love It, Focus on the Family Magazine

How to Put the Happy into Back to School

5 Ways to Become a Better Mom Today Today’s Christian Woman

Raising Socially Competent Kids       Thriving Family  Focus on the Family

My Quest to be a Happier Wife    Today’s Christian Woman

Do You Have a Happy Husband?

Help for Ministry Moms

Roommates or Soul Mates?  Called Magazine, Vol 5, Number 2, 2012

Not in the Mood?  Ask Yourself, “Why Not?”

The Wrong Question to Ask in Marriage

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Creative Christmas Gifts for Your Spouse

Marriage Q & A for Today’s Christian Woman, January/February 2013 – Balancing Time Between Hubby and Kids

Hard Times and Hidden Opportunities in Your Marriage   Thriving Family   Focus on the Family

Experts Warn Screens Affect Childrens’ Development  Georgia Strait

5 Relationship Skills in a Screen-Driven World  Thriving Family   Focus on the Family





  1. Robert says:

    I’ve been extremely frustrated with my christian marriage sex life for about 5 years. 5 years ago I sat my wife down and openly discussed my desires and my temptations. 5 years later nothing has changed. When we talk about it we get into the cart and horse argument. She maintains it is up to me to be kind, loving, and in a good mood IN ORDER FOR her to be able to have sex with me. I bought this at first. But being more romantic, spending more time talking, doing more chores, going on anti-depressants, etc. never produced more sex in our relationship. My question is this, biblically speaking is her participation in sex contingent on me fulfilling a bullet list first? that is how Smalley puts it in his book. I must earn the right to have sex with my wife.

    Please advise,


  2. Arlene says:

    Dear Robert,
    I am sorry to hear about your frustration. A good marriage is definitely a two way street, with both people giving love and respect unconditionally. When strings are attached, many problems arise as you’ve experienced. I would advise seeing a biblical counselor to better understand your wife’s reluctance.