If you would have told me 10 years ago that I would be talking on national radio about EROS, I would have laughed out loud.

God does have a sense of humor doesn’t He?

Here I am on Family Life Today talking with radio hosts Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine about the important topic of sexual fulfillment in marriage.

Thankfully I didn’t have to rely on my knowledge alone for the interview.  I got to lean into the advice I received from interviewing experts like sex therapists Dr. Cliff and Joyce Penner, Bill Farrel, Dr. David Frisbie, and Dr. David Clarke.

“The wife has to believe that one, she is a sexual person, and two, it is her right to be intensely sexual,” says Dr. Cliff Penner.

I don’t know about you, but that’s a sentence I have to rehearse a few times in my mind before I start embracing it fully.  The Penners set me straight that sex isn’t something primarily to fulfill your husband.  It’s for you too.  Equally.  Fulfilling.

I talked with a husband last week whose wife is reading 31 Days to a Happy Husband.  He said, “I’m constantly hearing the same message as a man:  be more sensitive toward your wife, improve communication etc.  I am so glad that the wives are finally talking about sex!”

Isn’t it true that we as women don’t attend as many sex seminars as husbands attend communication ones?

Yet as another husband put it, “It’s the action of sex that makes me feel really appreciated.”

It’s time to put the spotlight on the bedroom…that’s where your husband’s attention naturally focuses every day.

Listen to today’s interview on Family Life Today with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine.

Tomorrow, we talk about good ‘ol respect and what that means to your man.



Arlene Pellicane

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