Have you ever careened down a driveway of death?

Hopefully never unless you’re a movie stuntman.  But maybe you’ve slowly edged down a steep driveway.  My mentor Pam Farrel and her husband Bill have such a driveway.

Once when I visited, I tried to turn my car around because I knew I could not back down that driveway.  All of a sudden, I heard a crunch and a scraping sound.  I had hit a stucco curb that was short enough for me to overlook but high enough to make a mark on my husband’s car.

I was so embarrassed!  I had to ask Bill to maneuver my car so I could drive down their driveway of death.  And of course I had to explain this all to my happy hubby!

Marriage can feel like the driveway of death.  It looks exciting at first but before you know it, you’re careening out of control, looking for the emergency brake.

When you feel like your marriage is out of control, remember a few things:

Who is really driving.  If Jesus is the Lord of your life, He is in control and can steer much better than you can.

Who else is in your car.  Your husband is along for the journey so you are not alone.  Instead of feeling like your problems are separating you and your husband, strive to pit you AND your husband against your problems.  You are both sitting side by side in the car.  He is not your enemy.

Buckle up.  Put on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6) including the belt of truth.  Make sure that you are filling your mind with truth about your marriage and not the lies that the enemy can whisper or shout at you.

In your marriage right now, which statement is most fitting:

1. You’re staring down in fear at the driveway of death.

2. You’re on cruise control.

3. You’ve got the top down and having the time of your life!


Arlene Pellicane

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