How about after 1, 5, 10, 15 years of marriage? How’s the kissing now?
Well, I love what psychologist Dr. David Clarke writes in his book, Kiss Me Like You Mean It. And until November 12, you can get the ebook for just $1.99!
In over twenty-five years of seeing couples in therapy, Dr. Clarke has heard many complaints. And when you’re complaining about your spouse, you certainly don’t feel like kissing him or her.
Here his response to a common complaint that will make you laugh and give you a taste for his great humor:
Husband: “Doc, I’m just not physically attracted to my wife anymore. We’ve had two kids, and her body isn’t the same as when we got married. The extra weight she’s carrying is a real turn-off. I have never been attracted to overweight women. I don’t want to make love to her. Frankly, I don’t even like being around her. I have brought up her weight a number of times, and each time she’s gotten very angry and hurt. She runs crying to our bedroom, and I feel like the bad guy.”
Dave Clarke: “You ought to feel like the bad guy, because you are the bad guy. You moron! When was the last time you looked in the mirror? You’re not exactly male model material. You might be able to model underwear for a store called Big, Paunchy, and Out of Shape. We didn’t have two kids, either. She gave birth to those babies. Pregnancy changes a woman’s body. Let’s put an eight-pound bowling ball in your belly, have you carry it around for nine months, and then squeeze it between your legs. I’ll bet your hips will change too…Go home, fall on your knees, and beg her forgiveness. I’d throw in some serious groveling while you’re at it. Then tell her often she’s beautiful. In time, she will gain confidence.”
Now to be fair, the next complaint in the book is “He’s a Lazy Bum!” and Dr. Clarke rightly tells the wife, “You are a world-class nag. You’re pecking him to death. It’s a form of torture….”
You’ve got to get the book to read it all on page 58. It’s so worth it to work together to get the passion back! Dr. Clarke will help you get there…and get kissing again!
Kiss Me Like You Mean It on Kindle for $1.99 until November 12.