happy socksWith my new book 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife in bookstores like Family Christian, Barnes & Noble, and Amazon, I’ve been asked a lot about happiness.

Isn’t happiness a selfish goal?

What if I’m just not a very cheerful person?

What is happiness really? 

Popular culture may indicate that happiness is the feeling you get when:

  • Your husband brings home roses and a pay raise
  • You get that dream house
  • You can finally zip your skinny jeans
  • You shop til you drop

But that’s not really happiness.  Happiness isn’t a feeling that’s bought by a credit card.  It’s more of a by-product of the wise choices you make in your life.  When you place your faith in Christ, you have access to joy like never before.

“In your presence is fullness of joy.  At your right hand, pleasures forevermore.”  Psalm 16:11

So perhaps we can begin with what happiness is and what it isn’t. 

Happiness is about contentment.  It’s not about comparison.

Happiness looks out for others.  It’s not only concerned with itself.

Happiness is at peace with God.  It’s not trying to win a popularity contest.

Happiness is attained when you give it away.  It’s not achieved by hoarding.

Happiness is saying thank you.  It isn’t saying I deserve better.

Happiness can live in any circumstance.  It doesn’t have to have the exact right circumstances at all times.

Happiness chooses to respect.  It doesn’t choose to retaliate.

Happiness forgives.  It doesn’t warehouse grudges.

As you can see, being a happy wife is more about choosing joy than it is about circumstances.  And that’s good news!  Make a choice today to smile and share joy with others, starting with your spouse…


Arlene Pellicane

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