So excited to have this guest post from my friend Erin MacPherson! Erin and Kathi Lipp have a new book to bless your home (and love life): Hot Mama: 12 Secrets to a Sizzling Hot Marriage.
Erin has hopped over to my blog today and I’m at Kathi Lipp’s blog writing about 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. So today, you are destined to be encouraged here and there!
Can you relate to what Erin has to say?
Happy can be hard.
Content, sure. De-stressed, maybe after a trip to the spa. Comfortable, usually. But happy? That takes work.
And I have to admit that when Arlene’s book, “31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife” popped up on my Kindle, I was a bit skeptical. My marriage is fine– completely comfortable, often content, occasionally stressful, but…happy? I had a hard time describing it that way.
But I read it anyway.
And my skepticism quickly changed to enthusiasm. Because Arlene didn’t tell me to just to paste on a smile or to scribble happy faces across the pages of my life. She told me to be intentional about my marriage—to invest into my husband and to make my relationship with him the most important human relationship I have.
I was inspired.
Then, I got a call that I had a contract to write my own book—this one also about marriage. God sure has a sense of humor, doesn’t he? He picks the areas where we are the weakest and tells us to grow. And stretch. And be better.
And so I began, one tiny step at a time. Armed with Arlene’s ideas and my new mantra to be a happy, hot wife, I began to invest in my husband. Nothing big, nothing elaborate, nothing extraordinary, but through a series of tiny little gestures, I took tiny steps closer to being a happy, hot wife. And big steps closer to God’s plan for my marriage.
You can start today, too. It doesn’t require anything elaborate (or even anything big) but simply one tiny thing that says, “hey, you make me happy” but means so much more.
Here are 21 ideas to get you started.
- Make yourself a cup of coffee and then write a list of 100 things you love about your man in your journal. Thank God for providing you with a husband that is all you need to be happy.
- Buy him his favorite kind of cookie at the bakery. Don’t even take one bite.
- Write him a little note about how much you love him. Put it on the front seat of his car to find on his way to work.
- Pull him aside, give him a kiss and tell him how much you appreciate him.
- Plan a date night. Write in inside of a big heart on your calendar.
- Get up early and make him breakfast. Enjoy it together before you start your day.
- Pray for your husband. Often.
- Go to the store with him and ask him to pick you out some new pajamas. Remember what he chooses for next time you are shopping for PJ’s.
- Make his favorite food for dinner.
- Leave a chocolate on his pillow.
- Tell your husband he makes you happy because ________. Then thank him for that.
- Watch his favorite show with him, even if you’d rather be reading a novel.
- Always kiss him goodnight.
- Send him a text message that says “I love you” in another language. If he asks what it means, tell him to look it up.
- Put the kids to bed and make dinner together. Enjoy it in the candlelight.
- Start a private husband-and-wife book club: Make a promise to read a new marriage-improving book each month.
- Light a candle on your bedside table. Let him take it from there.
- Carve out time to have lunch together on a weekday.
- When he comes home from work, drop whatever you are doing and sit down on the couch and ask him about his day.
- Print out a picture of an exotic vacation spot (Tahiti anyone?) and slide it into the drawer on his nightstand and write “I can’t wait to grow old with you! Want to go here for our 50th anniversary?”
- Look him in the eyes and tell him you love him.
My friend Erin MacPherson is the author of nine books, including her new release, Hot Mama: 12 Secrets to a Sizzling Hot Marriage. She lives in Austin, TX with her happy husband and three kids and blogs at www.erinmacpherson.com.
I’m going to try texting “I love you” in another language. I don’t think I can bring home the cookie without eating it first. What are you going to do?