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Growing Up Social

Growing Up SocialIn our digital age, children are spending more and more time interacting with a screen rather than a real person. Technology has the potential to add value to our lives, but is it possible that too much screen time could be robbing our children of something much more valuable—namely, the emotional and social skills needed to succeed as they grow towards adulthood?

In Growing Up Social, you’ll learn how to take back your home from an over-dependence on screens.  Discover the five A + skills needed to give your child the relational edge:

The Skill of Affection – How do you show real love to another person?

The Skill of Appreciation – How do you cultivate a grateful heart?

The Skill of Attention – How do you focus and be a good listener?

The Skill of Anger Management – How do you express anger in a productive way?

The Skill of Apology – How do you mend a relationship after you make a mistake?

Today’s screens aren’t just in our living rooms; they are in our pockets.  Now is the time to equip your child to live with screen time, not for screen time.  Constant entertainment is not the goal of childhood.  No phone, tablet, or gaming device can teach your child how to have healthy relationships; only you can.

Growing Up Social will help you:

  • Equip your child to be relational rich in a digital world
  • Replace mindless screen time with meaningful family time
  • Establish simple boundaries that make a huge difference
  • Read what’s working for the screen savvy family down the street
  • Prepare your child to succeed down the road in relationships and life
  • Learn healthy ways to occupy your child while you get things done

PDF Quiz Does Your Child Have Too Much Screen Time



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  2. Jan Chapdelaine says:

    This is a great subject and I will be purchasing the book. We have 2 daughters that we started out fostering when our youngest was only a 2 day old infant & our older daughter was a 14 month old toddler. Not related biologically but we adopted both girls in 2010. We were adimit about keeping them out of the electronically ran “social” world. Proud that I was able to do just that backfired about a year ago. They are now 8 & 10. It is hard to keep them out of it, so we agreed for small devices, note tablets – monitored time of course. We have noticed that our youngest now is always asking for our phones to “look up something” (caught on to that one right away) ~ next thing we knew, she was on the game sites playing a game with her cousins or a friend. She will most of the time catch us off guard when we are occupied with something else & ask for the phone so we (not thinking & just reacting) will hand it over….what have we done?!?! We’ve created an electronical junky.
    We want to correct the damage before it goes any further or befor our oldest gets wrapped up into that world. So, THANK YOU SO MUCH for this devotion today! It has hit home for me!
    God bless ~

  3. Alison Saville says:

    Hi, We’ve just listened to Calm, Cool and Connected – it’s very relevant for my family at the moment. We’re planning to implement the HABIT during Lent focussing on a letter each week. I’d like my family to listen to the Building Relationships show Arlene and Gary did on Growing up Social last year but I can’t find it anywhere. Can you help? Thank you!

  4. Arlene says:

    I’m so glad you are implementing the HABIT – that is wonderful! I’m sorry I don’t see that program from Building Relationships in the archives. Sorry about that. If you look under “VIDEOS” and then “MESSAGES” on my site, you can listen to my talks about Growing Up Social as a family.

  5. Ashley Gerald says:

    I loved this book and am referring it to my son’s preschool. I listened to the book on hoopla digital. It changed my life. I actually deleted Facebook! But I’m looking for a bibliography. Where could I find the bibliography for this amazing book?

    • Arlene says:

      I am so glad that the book was so impactful Ashley! Thank you for referring it to your son’s preschool. I’m sorry there is not a bibliography, but you will find everything cited in the notes.


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