We’re taking the word DREAM from 31 Days to a Happy Husband…last week we talked about the “D” which is Domestic Tranquility. This week, we address the “R” which is RESPECT.
Since we’re talking letters, let’s go to that dreaded “S” word. Not sex, submission.
(You can listen to host Debbie Chavez and I talk about submission on The Debbie Chavez Show which aired today)
Now you’re either cheering or booing right now…
Submission seems very old fashioned these days. It’s misunderstood and misrepresented. If you believe the husband is the head of your home, you might get some hate mail.
Submission isn’t about giving up all your hopes and dreams just to say “Yes dear, what can I do for you every moment of the day?”
Submission isn’t about being a doormat.
BUT, submission is about supporting your husband as the leader of your home. Considering others (including your husband) as better than yourself (preferring another person out of love).
Let’s see what the Bible says (it hasn’t changed through the centuries!):
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” Colossians 3:18
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” 1 Peter 3:1
In all three instances, the wife is addressed first and then the husband. Doesn’t it make sense that when you take the first step to submit to your husband, your husband will find it much easier to fulfill his responsibility of loving you like Christ loved the church?
I think the husband has the more demanding role: love your wife like I loved the church.
Does it take faith to listen to your husband and pay attention to his preferences? Is it hard sometimes? Does this go against popular culture?
Yes…but it’s the right thing to do.
Is it hard for you to submit to your husband? Do you have good examples in your life of wives who submit to leadership and husband who love sacrificially?
In my next post, I’ll give you an example from my marriage of a time I didn’t let my husband lead…and what I learned from that.