There was a time when I was very bitter about marriage. It seemed to work out for everybody except me. I knew I had to do some damage control after that. The last thing you want to pass on to your children is bitterness. Never bash your ex in front of the kids. It’s easy to say, hard to do. You’ve got to look for great role models of marriage for your kids.
Most single moms think “I have to spend all of my time with my kids. I have to dig in.” It’s going to seem counter intuitive but I say give yourself a break mom. Go have some fun with your friends. Be with other couples and have great experiences that you can tell your kids about. When I was a single mom, I got sick of being me. I didn’t like who I’d become. So I got involved in church which was tough as a single mom. I kept showing up and coming back. I found a tribe I could be honest with. I told them, “I don’t like who I’m becoming. Can you hold me accountable?” Good friends can do that for you and you can do it for them as well.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9